Defiance

Defiance is most often manifested in children, considering that they must loudly show dissatisfaction with the way their parents treat them. Otherwise defiance occurs in all age groups.

Have you ever, as a parent, wondered why your children defy you? The parent should always think about the negative expressions of the child’s feelings towards him. This is always a consequence of his bad, inappropriate or unacceptable behavior towards the child. Since the child does not know how to express himself verbally well enough, he shows dissatisfaction with the parent’s unacceptable attitude towards him. Then, in defiance, he shows other aggressive feelings. A parent usually reacts to this with aggression towards their child and tells the child that he is naughty and punishes him sometimes physically. If the punishment was carried out with a lot of negative energy, it is absolutely unacceptable. In this way, the parent shows his child how little he appreciates and loves him, that he is not important to him and that he does not care about him. Such parental behavior pushes the child away from the parents, the child realizes that he will have to learn to fight for himself, mistrust that deepens with age and leads to even greater divisions between the child and the parent.

A parent often says that he gave and did everything to his child. What exactly does this mean? That you gave him food, water, clothes, a roof over your head, took him to the doctor and changed his diapers?

It is an integral part of life that any reasonable person would make to another human being. What is required of parents is understanding, trust, compassion and above all love. Love connects both care and positive feelings towards the child. If you act in accordance with love and understanding, you will understand the outbursts of negative feelings in your child, because you will know that it is part of growing up and maturing. A parent needs to have an immense amount of patience to guide and raise a child properly. This is how a child learns about life. He realizes that there are also negative feelings that need to be learned to control. This means that when such feelings appear, the child should first be calmed by words, gestures, behavior, and after the child calms down, talk about what triggered such a rush of negative feelings, how it manifested in the child, how the child manifested outward, how at the same time she felt and explained to him that one should always look for a way to resolve disagreements in a peaceful way. You will probably need to repeat the procedure countless times not only to express defiance but also to other feelings. You can only achieve this if you have a lot of love for your child.

Defiance is born in a child if you do not appreciate it. We are all in this world not because our parents want it but because God has made it possible for us. Parents sometimes treat their children as if they were their property and can do with them as they please. That is not correct! How many couples would like to have children and can’t? How many couples have a lot of kids and thought they had one or none? Think about the fact that God made it possible for you to become a parent in order to learn what love is. Children love endlessly. Children are full of love. Parents should learn through child what love is.

If a parent does not behave with a lot of love, understanding and attention towards his child, he does not fulfill the basic task of parenthood that God has given him. This means that by behaving badly towards your child he attracts negative karma. It is important to know that the Earth is conceived on the law of cause and effect, and the law of reincarnation. Everything comes back, nothing is lost. Therefore, every parent can expect his parents to treat him badly in one of their future lives. Keep that in mind.