Divorce is an event that should be avoided at all costs. Divorce can only be avoided if you are aware of the characteristics, values and flaws of your partner before starting to live together. A precursor to living together should be dating that refers to frequent conversations on all topics from nutrition, clothing, finances, health, preferences, perceptions of values and flaws. Today, most partners want to establish a quick relationship and engage in sexual intercourse very soon after dating. Such an attitude destroys a long-lasting and quality relationship, because a passionate sexual relationship can initially show a very shallow relationship between partners later on. This shallow relationship is further complicated when it comes to pregnancy, which in many cases ends in marriage. That marriage was probably doomed quickly because of the initial shallow relationship. A relationship in which there is only passion can suit many for a short time. If a person is looking for a long-term, deep relationship, that relationship must be based primarily on love, understanding, and support.
Shallow marriages also survive today, because partners do not seek a deeper relationship. In addition, such marriages are based on large compromises in which one side is always very hurt. In such marriages there is one side; or very busy, so that she is almost not at home; or has a sexual affair outside of marriage; or is constantly in cafes with friends; often times he doesn’t care emotionally for the children but only financially or not at all; begins or continues some kind of addiction such as alcoholism, narcotics, smoking; verbal and physical aggression of one partner over the other begins or continues etc.
One thing is for sure, if there is no love and understanding between the partners in a relationship they will not agree in the long run and there will be a breakup. In such a relationship, there will be no deep connection and there will be no improvement in their relationship. If there is no deep connection, there will be no support and understanding, nor a change in negative attitudes and behavior in a partner who behaves superiorly or inferiorly in the relationship. Love gives equality to partners in a relationship. Love builds a deep, quality and positive relationship. Love allows each partner in a relationship to develop and grow spiritually and to come to a higher level of consciousness, to a higher frequency. That relationship is approved by God. Such couples are blessed.
Most marriages in which the partners have realized that their relationship does not lead to anything in the long run, decide to divorce. In shallow marriages, and later in divorce, if children are involved, there is mutual quarreling and blackmail. Very few partners think about the needs and desires of children. If small children are involved, they are not asked what they want, but are assigned to a parent who is sometimes not suitable. Due to mutual blackmail from parents in divorce, children suffer the most. These children later need to grow into self-aware individuals who should know how to appreciate love and be guided by love. Few think of the severe emotional consequences in children who are forced to accept what is imposed on them. In addition, it should be borne in mind that children love both parents equally, and that because of their immense love, which is not taken into account in divorce, they want to help both parents to understand that everyone is worthy of love.
Divorces show how much an individual values himself, and so do others. This shows separation from love, that is, from God, because by believing in God one gains a strong knowledge of who we are and what we are. By believing in God, we live in love for ourselves and show it and live toward others. In this case, God guides and directs us towards a person with whom we can have a deep and lasting relationship.
When a divorce has to happen, then try to make it easier for both your partner and your children. Divorce is a very painful process, but it is also extremely important to an event in the life of a spouse (and children). Parents need to find the best solution to continue raising their children after divorce, this is one of the most important decisions for the sake of the children. It is extremely important to analyze your relationship with your partner while you are married and after a divorce to understand where the cause of the difference of opinion is (cause of divorce). That way, divorced partners will no longer make the same mistakes when finding a new partner.
In addition, everyone gets after a friendly break between partners, both children and partners. Therefore, after a divorce, ex-spouses should be kind, reasonable and try to divorce as soon as possible with a clear definition of all parameters. They should keep in mind that this person will no longer be their spouse, but will still be a parent, family member, and perhaps a business partner.