According to the Bible, the definition of marriage is the union of a man and a woman who love each other. Love should be the only link between two people of different sexes uniting in a holy community. Only by connecting in love is God’s blessing obtained. Everything that binds two people into a community, and is not love, is null and void, even if it is confirmed in religious and secular institutions. None of the worldly persons, even if they perform the function of religious representatives, are still all people who are on Earth for learning as well as all of us whom God has enabled us to incarnate for the same purpose, i.e. learning what life is. They accepted their vocation, their vocation out of a need to understand what it means to be close to God, no matter what we all do the same by facing and understanding everyday different life situations, just in our own way.
Marriage as defined by the secular community has no basis in God’s laws. It is therefore completely null and void. Likewise, the communion between couples confirmed by the priest is also null and void if there is no foundation in love.
Marriage is a community of two people who have come together in love to grow together spiritually, to develop together and to help their children (if they have them) to grow spiritually, all in deep connection, in love. Marriage allows people to primarily learn to communicate with each other; learn to understand someone other than themselves; learn to empathize; learn to surrender to another person with full confidence; learn that truth and life in truth are extremely important for the purification of the soul; learn to support and learn to help. It is all connected by true love and the realization that from love comes everything positive, everything good, everything creative, and psychic and physical health.
Marriage is a union of two people that does not have to be confirmed by religious or secular representatives. It is important that these people are connected by love and thus receive God’s blessing. Such persons value, support and respect each other. Love and togetherness are important to them. Through their love and communion they realize both their deep love and communion with God. Such persons carry only love within themselves. There is no room in them for negative feelings like hatred, envy, jealousy, anger and revenge. Only people who have no love in themselves and for themselves have such negative feelings. They do not know love. They think they have it in them, but it is not love but the fear associated with loss, and / or the selfishness associated with the ego. When we talk about the ego, it is usually about the fear of losing the person they think they love, which causes negative feelings in them that can often lead to very negative consequences, such as murder, obsession and stalking. When we talk about fear, it is usually the fear of opening up to love that leads to the fear of a new hurt. This only indicates mentally unstable people who need to be treated.
Most marriages today have a very big problem, and that is a lack of communication. Very few married couples communicate with each other. Lack of communication leads to conflicts, quarrels, bad interpersonal relationships, destructive attitudes, bad attitudes towards children and poor interpersonal behavior (superior / inferior person). In marriage, both spouses must have equal voting rights, equal treatment of each other and be unanimous in the upbringing of their children. Disunity in the upbringing of children creates doubts in children and confusion as to which parent they should follow or which they should obey. Of course, children will always choose the parent from whom they can get the most benefit since they are intelligent, which most parents do not think about. This is not good for the upbringing and healthy development of the child. In addition, if one parent says one thing and the other has a different attitude and says another, quarrels often break out between the parents due to differences of opinion. This leaves a bad impression on the child, who accepts it as the fact that only the person who is louder and more aggressive wins, and believes that this is the right behavior in adults. This behavior is used by most adults later in life. It is a very destructive way of thinking and behaving that leads to a deeper gap between him and God.
Marriage is made up of two people who together form a whole, a whole in love. It is not a struggle between two different characters or satisfying financial interests, or a job well done or meeting inherited family norms. It has nothing to do with love and with God. Marriage is a connection of two people who are on relatively the same frequencies, who understand each other without saying words, who complement each other in everyday life situations, who encourage and support each other, who rejoice in the same things together, who are happy for each other’s success, in which one person gives strength to another if he sees that he is falling emotionally and physically. This is Love. Then God is involved in every word, movement, look. It’s a marriage.