Self-restraint

People limit themselves out of fear. This fear arose due to the poor attitude of the parents towards the child. The parent does not understand how much his words affect the child’s life and his understanding of reality and truth. If a parent knows how his every word the child absorbs and builds a relationship with himself and life that later defines his attitudes, decision-making and behavior, he would pay close attention to his behavior, attitude and words to his child.

The words that a parent addresses to a child over the years create a self-limitation in the child that deepens over the years. A parent tells his child that he is not well enough; that his ideas are unrealistic and ridiculous; that he should be careful about what he does and how he behaves, because it puts their parents in awkward situations; not to dream big so as not to be disappointed; that life is hard; that they are determined by poverty and misery; that the world is cruel and one should stick to already known directions and so on.

All this and many other negative attitudes towards life the parent instills in his child who generally accepts his attitudes and understanding of life. It is necessary for the parent to understand his role in the child’s life, and that is that the child in the first 10 years of his life absolutely trusts him and accepts everything that is said to him. If a parent instills negative thinking patterns in their child they will bear the consequences. Most parents are not aware of this, otherwise they would not be so irresponsible towards their child.

A good parent follows his child, does not limit him but guides him. Children should not be encouraged, because children themselves are extremely creative more or less. Children need to be monitored and guided, explained to them, helped in their efforts to understand their creativity and its consequences. The parent must talk openly with the child with a lot of love in order for the child to understand that he has immense opportunities, that he can achieve everything if it is good for him, but he will probably encounter countless obstacles, misunderstanding of the environment, his own doubts, his own changes because he increases knowledge during his intellectual development, and that for all it takes a lot of love, perseverance, effort and never give up if in his heart he is aware that what he is doing is good.

A child who has self-limitations and is at a high level of spiritual development will overcome these limitations during his youth and maturation. It will be difficult for him because he will have to fight against the ways of thinking implanted in him and new knowledge that self-limitation is only a way of thinking that can be changed and solved by a positive way of thinking.

Children who are at a lower level of spiritual development often remain trapped in this way of thinking for the rest of their lives if they are not helped. Sometimes such children never leave their parents’ home, so they don’t even give themselves that opportunity. They can only be helped if they ask for it. After all, everyone can be helped only if they ask for it. They can get help in many ways. One way is that if they realize that they can only rely on themselves, then they can get help by calling on God to help them and give them strength. It gives inner strength and increases the love in yourself and allows for positive change. Another way is to read books. There are some great books on self-help. All the books that reveal to you that no one has ever been able to limit anyone, so don’t do it to yourself. By reading books, you raise positive energy in your body, enable a change in the way you think and understand life, and resolve personal limitations. By accepting these changes, you are letting yourself know that you are loved and valued, because you are truly before God, and that no one and nothing can limit you. This means that you start thinking openly about the possibilities of change, after which new ideas start to appear to you, a way to solve problems and you become free. You start doing what interests you and you are aware of the ups and downs, but you realize that everything you do, you do out of love for yourself because it fulfills you. Then realize how much the fear that limited you has kept you from living a full life.

Life is full of many situations from which we need to learn, so do not limit yourself, but approach everything prudently and thoughtfully, because after all, everyone bears their consequences. The problem is if you are not striving for liberation from self-limitation, because then you have wasted this life and you will have to reincarnate again to solve the problems that have incarnated you in this life.