This is because they are mostly focused on their own problems without thinking that their children also have their own problems appropriate to their age. In such families the child feels neglected. A bigger problem occurs when, in addition to everything I have mentioned, parents, because of their lack of interest, punish children’s curiosity and creativity, which they consider arrogance, rebellion and wickedness, and abuse them both mentally and physically. Such parental behavior leaves even deeper and more lasting consequences that are later reflected in the inappropriate behavior of individuals. One part of such children when they grow up become aggressive rebels, while the other part closes in on itself. What they have in common is that they both have a sense of inferiority, a sense that they need to prove themselves, a sense that they should accept unacceptable suggestions to convince people around them that they too are worthy of attention and love. Such persons later build superficial love relationships in which they portray themselves as either a superior or an inferior person in order to fill the void of misunderstanding and rejection from childhood with their attitudes and behaviors. That is why today we have a lot of relationships and marriages that are dysfunctional. Most of these people have a very hard time dealing with their personality and everyday problems. As a rule, such people are accepted only by those who are similar to them, because they can understand them. These people are not whole person and need a lot of love and understanding to learn to love themselves. When a person loves himself, it means that he is connected with God. That means it is complete. Since they are not connected to God, they lack self-love, which means they have a very pronounced ego, which means they are not whole persons.
Whole persons are those who are calm and sedate, full of understanding, compassion and love. These are people for whom their feminine (inward-facing) and masculine (outward-facing) principle is in balance, which means their emotional and creative side. Both principles cannot do without each other, because one principle complements the other and activates it. If both principles are in balance, the person is whole, because the right and left sides of his brain work in a perfect way, and the person lives in love and is connected with God.
People who have suffered a lot in childhood find it difficult to open up because they think that if they open up they can be deeply hurt again. These people do not know how to love, because they are afraid of love, because they believe that by opening up to love, they will become vulnerable and that other people will take advantage of them because of that.
The problem is that many parents do not approach their children in the right way. Children only really want and need from their parents (apart from food and clothes) is their understanding, sense of belonging, sense of trust, compassion and love. If this child does not get it, emotionally sensitive children, at a higher level of consciousness, have a much harder time living their childhood and a much harder time knowing the truth about life than children at a lower level of consciousness, who find it almost impossible to know the truth about life, and all because of a poor relationship with parents. In this way, parents condemn themselves and their children to another unnecessary incarnation.
The truth about life is that we are all on Earth to grow to a higher level of consciousness, to get closer and ultimately and to be united with God. This is only possible if we live in love and spread love around us. The first experiences after birth must be a feeling of immense love (and understanding) by the parents, which must permeate the whole childhood, because otherwise parents create emotional cripples, children who create huge problems for themselves and who create huge problems for others, all just because they were deprived of love in childhood. Such people create bad relationships and a sick society.
“To fear love means to fear life, and those who fear it are already dead three times over.” Bertrand Russell (20th century philosopher and versatile scientist)
