Such an unhealthy and very fragile relationship between parents and children is later reflected in the child’s life in a bad relationship with other people, arrogance, seeking support from others (because they did not get it in the parental home), alienation, lack of self-esteem and hurt, reflected in the emotional immaturity of the individual. Such individuals, of whom there are more and more, create emotionally immature relationships and emotionally immature children. In this way, families and society fall apart. It just shows how little love there is in families or how little parents love their children.
What most parents today consider to be love for their children, or at least behave and speak in such a way, is that they care for them, provide them with the maximum in their (financial) ability, feed and clothe them, and give them allow for a variety of activities. They usually do not think (because they are selfish) whether it suits the child (mostly imposed activities), whether the child is happy to go to so many (many) activities instead of sharing free time in conversation and / or playing with parents, how he would get to know life better, or he would simply want to be at home with his parents and be involved in daily activities (appropriate to his age). Such hardness in the relationship that a parent creates in their child during childhood, nothing later in life can compensate. Children realize that they are left to fend for themselves and that the only one they can rely on is either a relative (if that person doesn’t betray him or her) or one of the friends they can only hang out with in the upper grades of school (from 12 years since began independence and growing up, and changes in thought patterns).
Emotional immaturity is very difficult to treat and is a lengthy process. Some of the reasons are: that the person is not even aware of the problem in himself, and does not understand why he always puts himself in an awkward situation and attracts people who only make life difficult for him (not realizing that his parents treated him that way); the second reason is that the person understands the problem but knows that he cannot seek professional help because he might be stigmatized; the third problem is that if she realizes that she needs help, she turns to the wrong people who cannot help her, but only extract financial resources from her under the guise of help; the fourth is the one that people usually resort to, and that is looking for literature that describes and solves their problem, and going to religious communities that could (and should) provide them with understanding, support and help. This lengthy process of healing the soul can take years with very few positive results. Many people are not ready for the lengthy healing process no matter what brings big, long lasting and positive changes because they are not used to patience and because they are looking for quick solutions. They would rather engage in superficial relationships than become self-aware (after a long healing process) and enter into a deep and long-lasting relationship full of positive and sincere emotions. This way of thinking impoverishes our society, just as it impoverishes our society’s bad and unhealthy attitude parents towards their children in the parental home. All that is needed to understand the relationship of parents to children is true true love. From it springs the understanding, support and upbringing of children who later need to grow into self-aware, moral and positive, emotionally mature young people. These people will know how to create healthy emotional relationships not only in love life and as parents but also in friendly relationships as well as business ones. It makes a person an emotionally mature person. It makes our families healthy families. It makes our society a healthy society.
Have love for yourself, because emotional immaturity shows how little love you have in yourself and for yourself, given that you treat yourself with disrespect. The way you treat others shows the way you treat yourself.
You can’t give something you don’t own!
So have love for yourself so you can have it for others.